DATING

DATING

By Morgan Ingle Growing up in a conservative Southern Baptist Church will really shape the way you view dating. I heard a lot about saving yourself for “the one” but not a lot about becoming the one or dating in a healthy way. I could have avoided a lot of confusion, heartache, and compromise if someone would have given me some simple tools in how to steward my heart and do relationship well. First and foremost, a pivotal perspective change. Relationships that move into marriage are obviously awesome, but not everyone that dates should get married. Whether we find we want to get married or we don’t, we’ve succeeded. The goal of dating is to get to know the person and see if we are “meant to be,” not to get married. This means no more crazy expectations or pressure and it makes way for us to genuinely connect. In my life, I built up this idea in my head that I (and God) had chosen someone and because of that, I ended up ignoring so many of the red flags and compromises because he was “the one.” We need to stay present. Remember, you’re not married until you’re married and you are allowed to make decisions that may end in breaking the relationship up, because in the long run, it will be better for both of you. Ironically, bold communication was a foreign concept to me before I got into a relationship. There were so many times I wanted to say something and didn’t because I was too afraid or I devalued its significance. In those moments, I...

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